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15 positive affirmations for confidence

 

Gaining confidence is something I have been trying to achieve for most of my life. 

 

I suppose that makes sense since it isn’t something that happens overnight but rather is a process, one that may take a lifetime to complete. It reminds me of the way the leaves of a fern gently unfurl. Tiny, microscopic changes occur as the plant allows itself to take up more and more space.

 

That’s how I tend to think of confidence as well – Being bold enough to take up space.

 

These days it seems like a lot of us (especially women) are doing the opposite. We are shrinking, hiding or worst of all, apologizing for taking up space.

 

We minimise ourselves and try to avoid making any sort of fuss.

 

We are so afraid of disappointing people that we prioritise others needs before our own, leaving us burnt out and exhausted.

 

We want to be these super women who can do it all without even breaking a sweat so we refuse to ask for help or admit when it’s all too much for us to handle.

 

And we allow ourselves to believe this lie that we can only show up once we are perfect. Because nobody wants to see our mess, our flaws or our imperfections.

 

“Just as bravery is not the absence of fear, neither is confidence the absence of imperfection.” – Ashton Smith

 


 

Recently, having to muster the strength to face people has been a real struggle. My life circumstances have felt overwhelming and having to slap on a cheerful face or make small talk with people outside of my home was simply too much.

 

I guess I fell into the trap of believing that I could only show up once I was perfect too.

 

In my head, the reason I didn’t want to face the world outside my windows was because I was too messy. I had too much drama going on in my personal life. Everything felt too uncertain and too complicated.

 

It is easy to blame a lack of confidence on outside circumstances. I tell myself these stories often…

 

I will feel more confident when I have a full time job

I will feel more confident when I am a married woman. 

I will feel more confident when I have my own house. 

 

These outside factors glimmer with hope. Surely they will give me the safety and security I need to be myself in this world. 

 

If I just figure out what I am going to do with my life, if I just have a place of my own to come home to, then I’m sure I’ll be brimming with confidence. 

 

But the truth is that life is filled with uncertainty. There will always be room for us to grow into and that will always bring doubt and fear. 

 

And hard as we try to keep all our ducks in a row, life throws curve-balls which make our outside circumstances too unpredictable to base our confidence on.

 

We won’t gain confidence from external circumstances because confidence comes from within. 

 

We have to belong to ourselves before we can find belonging anywhere else. We have to feel safe and secure within ourselves rather than looking to find that security in our relationships, job or the home we live in. 

 

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How do we build confidence within ourselves?

 

That’s the tricky part isn’t it?

 

Something I have been learning from my counsellor is how to use truth coaches or what I call affirmations for confidence.

 

Giving ourselves some words or a phrase which helps us to coach our mind to think differently. So that instead of dwelling on our doubt, fear or lack we can be reminded of the truth.

 

Building confidence within requires us to start thinking about ourselves differently.

 

We have to acknowledge that we have flaws and weaknesses but we shouldn’t let them hold us back.

 

Confidence is leaning into your strengths, showing up despite your weaknesses and recognising the places where you can grow.

 

And let me tell you, these affirmations have made a world of difference for me. As I repeat them in my head or write them out in my journal I can feel something shifting inside me.

 

These words carry truth and that is powerful.

 

Most of my insecurities stem from feeling like I am not good enough and don’t quite measure up. So these affirmations are what I have been using to counteract those negative thoughts.

 

If you feel like you aren’t enough or need to change something about yourself before you will be worthy of belonging then I encourage you to start speaking these words to yourself.

 

I hope they will give you the courage to face whatever today brings…

 

15 positive affirmations for confidence:

 

One. Nobody knows what it is like to be me.

 

Two. I am incomparable, I am one of a kind.

 

Three. I am fine the way that I am.

 

Four. I don’t need to be anyone else.

 

Five. I bring value to this world.

 

Six. Everyone likes me here unless they say they don’t.

 

Seven. No one can make me feel inferior.

 

Eight. I am the author of my story.

 

Nine. My opinions, feelings and ideas are valid.

 

Ten. I will not stress about things I cannot control.

 

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Eleven. I don’t have to be perfect, I just have to be me.

 

Twelve. I believe in myself and my abilities.

 

Thirteen. I am deserving of my dreams.

 

Fourteen. I am great at what I do.

 

Fifteen. I am proud of myself.


 

If you like these then take a look at my post: 25 self love affirmations.

 

Leave a comment below and let me know which of these affirmations for confidence stood out to you the most.

25 self-love affirmations to pick yourself up on bad days

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When I think of self love I think self-indulgence,  an enlarged ego and the desperate desire for attention.

 

I think of all the stereotypes and the critical things people have to say about millennials. I think of the way we are mocked for our participation awards, our inspirational quotes and our obsession with documenting our lives online.

 

But what they often fail to mention are the pressures millennials face in this modern world.

 

The massive amounts of debt we incur through student loans, the impossible search for a stable job, the completely unrealistic housing prices and the constant inferiority we feel because of the highlight reel we see from our peers online.

 

This world squeezes us from every side. It crushes us beneath its weight. It tramples on our dreams and takes delight in leaving us feeling like a failure.

 

It can be hard to keep your head up against those pounding waves.

 

It can be a challenge to step into anything new, bold or daring when the way before you is paved with potential failure and an onslaught of “I told you so’s.

 

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I have struggled with self-love for as long as I can remember…

 

I have fallen into the trap of trying to be like everyone else many times.

 

I’ve berated myself for my differences and done everything I can to change them. To smother my uniqueness. To stifle my individuality.

 

However, I have come to realise that my greatest successes always come when I am being my authentic self. But it takes so much courage to live that way. To be unashamed of ourselves and to live without putting up walls that keep people out.

 

That kind of vulnerability requires incredible inner strength and an abundance of self love.

 

We have to recognise that in order to thrive in this world we need unshakable confidence in ourselves.

 

We have to believe in ourselves because we might just be the only one that does.


 

When you treat yourself with gentleness and compassion you create a safe environment where you have room to be vulnerable, to make mistakes, to try without fear of failing.

 

That’s what is so great about self love affirmations. They are more tangible. We can say them out aloud, write them down, hang them on our walls.

We can thread them through our lives so that they become part of our vocabulary. A familiar, friendly voice of encouragement.

 

They can change the way we think and talk about ourselves.

 

For many people, self-love can seem trivial. A luxury. An indulgence. But I believe that self-love is a necessity. Not a after thought or an add-on, but the one of the things we need most of all.

 

Self-love is important because it is our foundation

 

It is the place where we build all our beliefs about ourselves from. It is the difference between having the confidence to say YES or giving into fear and saying NO.

 

So here are some words of encouragement for you today and every day. For the bad days and the good. Words for you to speak over yourself and let sink deep down into your heart.

 

May they become part of your vocabulary, the new way you think and feel about yourself.

 

My dear millennial friends, this is your participation trophy, your pat on the back, your gentle reminder that you are doing a good job. I hope these self love affirmations will give you the confidence you need to face the world.

 

 

25 self love affirmations to remember on bad days:

 

 One. I’m proud of myself for daring to try, most people don’t even do that.

 

Two. I am not my mistakes, I forgive myself for those.

 

Three. I deserve love, compassion and empathy from others.

 

Four. No one is me and that is my super power.

 

Five. I am learning every single day.

 

Six. Fear is only a feeling, it will not hold me back.

 

Seven. I am doing the best I can with what I have.

 

Eight. I choose to stop apologizing for being myself.

 

Nine. I am free to make my own choices and decisions.

 

Ten. I will only surround myself with people who bring out the best in me.

 

Eleven. I will not compare myself to others.

 

Twelve. I am allowed to feel whatever emotions I do.

 

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Thirteen. I will not be controlled by my emotions, I am in control.

 

Fourteen. I don’t need to be impressive to anyone else.

 

Fifteen. I will treat my body with respect.

 

Sixteen. I am leaving the past behind me.

 

Seventeen. I am capable of handling whatever comes in the future.

 

Eighteen. I will be patient with myself as I grow.

 

Nineteen. I am grateful for my uniqueness I will not be ashamed of it.

 

Twenty. I accept I have weaknesses but they do not define me.

 

Twenty one: My vulnerability is my greatest strength.

 

Twenty two: I am proud of everything I have achieved so far.

 

Twenty three: I am a creative person when I give myself the chance to be.

 

Twenty four: I will take things one step at a time.

 

Twenty five: I am enough just as I am.

 

“I once was afraid of people saying ‘who does she think she is’ now I have the courage to stand and say ‘this is who I am.” Oprah Winfrey

 

If you would like to have a copy of each of these affirmations (like the image above) to stick on your bathroom mirror or fridge or bedside table… I’ve made a PDF document you can download and print out.

 

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What self love affirmations would you add to my list?